How does life go on, even through a crisis?

I remember reading an article or hearing an interview about war-torn Syria, and in the article, a young woman described how life goes on even during a war.  Now, it never occurred to me about the practical logistics of the people who are indirectly affected by a serious crisis.

The reality; there are many businesses, lives, and events that continue outside of the main crisis, although they live and exist within direct contact of the situation.  These individuals sit in a position of having to walk the fine line of remaining focused on their personal endeavors at the same time responding to the needs of victims.

This post is inspired by the fire at Grenfell Towers, West London, where one of the key issues of discontent and anger is the social and economic divides.  Now as I write this post we are in the throngs of the emotion of victims, families and the local community.

People are responding in mass making contributions, donating money, time and resources. Giving a caring hug and a listening ear.

However, my questions are, what happens beyond the current impact?

  • What is happening to the local business who may have employed and supported local people?
    • Will they survive?
    • Will there be jobs for people to go back to?
  • What happens to the employees who may lose their jobs or will not be paid due to their absence?
  • What happens to people on zero hours contracts?
  • What happens in the future, when these victims (direct & indirect) are seeking employment, will their connections to this event, place them in a marginalised position.

One of the issues I am concerned about is what happens when the eyes of the public have shifted to something else.  (Similar to parents with a new child, life really begins after everyone has left, the home after the initial excitement).

The same is true of trauma and a crisis.  In the midst of the incident, people can become very motivated to provide solutions.  However, what happen months, and years later.  How are we treating and managing those people?

I think people forget, that life is made of those seconds and not just of those big moments.

So, I am thinking about what happens after the fact?

  • How can businesses show compassion?
  • What can I do to help build sustainable businesses?
  • How can the small businesses of today be the compassionate multi-national employers of tomorrow?

I am sad that a crisis has to bring about the neccessity for compassion in business.

Deep in thought

My name is Nicola and this is my blog.  I write about things I love and consider important.

This post focuses on compassion in business.



The Power of Words by Dr Maya Angelou

Your words have power.

You never know who is watching or whose life you are impacting


The Power of Words – Dr. Maya Angelou

“Words are things, I’m convinced.  You must be careful about the words you use, or the words you allow to be used in your house.

In the Old Testament, we are told in Genesis, that in the beginning was the word, and the word was God and the word was with God.  That’s in Genesis. 

Words are things, you must be careful. Careful about calling people out of their names, using racial pejorative or sexual pejorative and all that ignorance, don’t do that.  

Some day we will be able to measure the power of words.  I think they are things, I think they get on the walls, they get in your wallpaper, they get in your rugs, in your upholstery, in your clothes and finally into you.”

Why should we care about your business?

I was recently interviewed on International Women’s Day about women in business.  During the interview, the host asked, “Why should we care about your business?”  I answered honestly and from the heart.  However, the question got me thinking about my clients and other businesses.  Why should we care about your business? Why should people pay attention to you?

You can click on the image to hear my response to the question, why should we care about your business?

This question was further compounded by an interview I watched, with a physicist, who is pioneering groundbreaking cancer treatment using lasers that leaves little or no side effects. Dr. Hadiyah-Nicole Green shares what inspired her research and what is needed to take it to the next level. What struck me was her persistence of asking this simple question WHY NOT?

In this world of so much noise and ‘look at me’, the question to ask yourself is Why?

  • Why should someone care about your business?
  • Why should we not be able to find a more effective cure for cancer?
  • Why can’t more women receive funding for their business?

I believe in the answer you find the heart of your goal.

My personal final thought?
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I just want to challenge you to ask yourself, WHY you do what you do?  In the answer lies the truth of who you are and your purpose.

My name is Nicola and this is my blog.

When silence is the loudest message

Sometimes when you are in the midst of trials and tribulations, silence provides solitude in a way that no other state can.  It provides you with an opportunity to reflect, listen to yourself and contemplate the next right move.

As with the rest of the globe, I cannot help but be aware of the massive shift taking place in the world.  It is causing many people to come together to fight against negative attitudes and behaviours.  However, I am very much interested in what we are fighting for.

What do we want to see?

I am a massive fan of the quote by Mother Theresa


When I get silent I think about the contribution I am making on this earth and the things I can do to add to the solution and not just add to the warriors fighting for the solution.

  • My question is do you ever get silent?

#NicolaLovesLife Valentine’s Competition Time

My blog is called Marketing With Love; and although I celebrate the power of love everyday of the week, it would be remiss of me not to run a competition for Valentine’s Day.

arapinaIn partnership with Arapina I am offering one lucky winner the opportunity to receive a wonderful box of Arapina chocolates.

About Arapina Bakery

Arapina is a Healthy Lifestyle Bakery, with roots in reinvented Mediterranean recipes, offering delicious and guilt free products for a sophisticated clientele. We’ve mixed things up to create a range of delicious desserts that not only taste great but support today’s healthy lifestyles and dietary intolerances. We make decadent cakes and desserts from the best natural ingredients so you can enjoy scrumptious guilt free treats.

Terms and conditions:  You will need to collect your prize from Arapina:  8 Little Thames Walk, SE8 3FB, London, UK or you can pay for shipping


To enter it is simple:    Follow Arapina Bakery on any of their social media platforms and enter with your name and email address below.

Closing date:
Midnight 10th Feb 2017 GMT (Open to uk residents only)



Hidden Figures/ Hidden Talent – Laurie Seymour



Name: Laurie Seymour

Business: The Baca Journey

Website link:


As a mentor/guide, Laurie Seymour, M.A., is a #1 best-selling author, speaker, host of the Wisdom Talk Radio podcast and founder of The Baca Journey. She helps women and men who are in the midst of great change to have a direct experience of their inner wisdom, dissolving self-doubt. Then she teaches them how to sustain their inner connection so that they live the life they know is possible.


Laurie, what is the inspiration behind The Baca Journey?  Well, the Baca Grande is a physical place located in Crestone, Colorado. It is home to many groups of a spiritual nature as well as people who are drawn by its high-desert beauty and provocative energy. It is where a group of inner explorers held gatherings for 20 years, dedicated to learning about our own potential. We had a passion for inner discovery that transcended dogma, religion or mental constructs. We wanted to learn about how energy worked and we wanted that learning to come from within.

We wanted to learn about how energy worked and we wanted that learning to come from within. The Baca Journey was born from this exploration as a place for discovery, for learning, for dialogue, and for exploration.  It represents that place within each one of us, as human beings, that is connected with a greater truth and a desire to discover more about how to live aligned with that truth in everyday life.

What are the key foundations of your business?  Our core operating values are:

  • Conscious participation in life is needed for creative action to take hold.
  • As you trust and take action, a new way of living everyday life unfolds.
  • This new way of living gives rise to answers for life’s challenges.
  • Life has meaning.
  • There is a bigger picture.
  • The journey (life) is exhilarating!

These values underlie everything that we offer, whether that is through one to one sessions, online programs (like Turaya Meditation Live Online and Prospecting Your Inner Jewel), corporate mindfulness programs or live classes such as Turaya Touch.

How has your business grown since you first launched?  I launched The Baca Journey while I was working full-time for a major telecommunications company. At that time (and for several years until I left) it was primarily a vehicle for online writing, building a library of resources for people who were ready to explore and claim a bigger picture of themselves and life’s possibilities. Now it is a full-fledged service company dedicated to unleashing people’s potential and having a life that works. It’s really a business that has been decades in the making, since my first career as a psychotherapist and university instructor.

What have been your biggest struggles since launching?  My struggles happen whenever I forget that I’m part of a bigger mission to remind people of who they really are and what is possible. It’s when I think I’m in this alone.

What have been your greatest achievements?  When someone connects with the big truth inside of themselves and they feel loved from the inside-out. Then when they discover that this is sustainable and that they can make life decisions from within this clear space of mindful presence even in the midst of outer turmoil. Actually, these are really their achievements. I’m kind of like the Sherpa who provides the tools, shows the way and helps carry the load on the journey.

What differentiates you from your competitors?  If we each have our own expression of who we are, and if that expression is represented with love and integrity in what we offer, then none of us can do what another does. I know in the depth of my being that this is true, so I have no competitors. Nor do “they.”

How would you encourage someone who wants to use your service?   More than anything, you want to know that your inner guidance is coming from the deepest, truest part of you. You are ready to create the bigger picture that has been calling to you. You’re ready to trust the answers inside of you even if you aren’t sure how.   I’ll provide the strategies you’ll require to get through the portal to the “other side” and illuminate your next steps. Let’s do this together.

What are your goals for your business over the next few years?  Personally, 2017 will see the completion and publication of my first solo book (I’m a #1 international best-selling author of two collaborative books). I’m expanding my signature online program, Prospecting Your Inner Jewel in 2017 that teaches people how to access their own inner direction so they can navigate successfully through life’s changes. I taught my first classes in London in 2016 and will be taking Prospecting Your Inner Jewel live on the road nationally and internationally.

Ultimately, I look to The Baca Journey to be a provocative catalyst for people to come together in community in the joy of how life can work.

What is your message to the reader?  There is a reliable resource already within you that can bring a new simplicity and clarity to determining your true next step. It is part of your original “blueprint”. It is waiting for your rediscovery. I call this your Inner Guidance System, your own unique GPS.   There’s a new life waiting for you and now it’s your time to make space for you.  It’s time to answer the inner call that you feel whispering inside. Because you are ready. Because you can.

Thank you!

nicola-2Laurie, I am so happy that you shared your vision with my readers.  I firmly believe in our inner power to create change.  However, it is great to know that there are people like you, who can help people like me un-tap our potential.

Thank you for participating in our series.

If you want to contirbute to my Hidden Figures/Hidden Talent series, please message me at

If as a business you are starting at ground zero, how do you build your audience?

When I started my business I started with great dreams and aspirations for building an amazing client base, of people who wanted to build the next big brands.  However, as a business woman with no experience of running a company, you have to figure out the pieces as you go along.

This post is specifically for the women and men, who cannot see the woods, from the trees as they grow their business.

Keep trying.  Keep persisting.  Keep  Keeping on!

However, I want to share a few tips to help you through those long nights and sometimes even longer days.

  1. Stay focused and believe.  I have read stories about women who have lifted burning cars to save their children.  That should be you.  Focus your energy, stay focused and keep moving forward with purpose.  Because that business you are building can become the saving gift for future generations.
  2. Connect with your audience.  Study and understand the people you are communicating with.  Connect with them and let them know why you are happy to serve them.
  3. Take risks.  Success does not come easy.  Be ready to fail.  However, be ready to shine as bright as the stars.  Someone said to me the other day, “there is no guarantee that working with Influencers would work” (we were talking about Vlogging).  My response was, “you are correct.  But you definitely guarantee that it won’t work if you don’t try.

I seriously dislike fear, especially when other people use it as an excuse for why they are stuck.

I ask you to; Keep trying.  Keep persisting.  Keep  Keeping on!

My personal final thought
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Deep in thought

I have this vision.  It is a something that I am looking forward to doing.

I am looking for an Influencer that wants someone to believe in them and the work they do.

I am looking to sharing the surprises.

My name is Nicola and this is my blog.

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I am extremely happy that Trump’s policy has ‘woken’ people up to the reality of humanity

So the cat is out of the bag.  Donald Trump meant what he said when he stated he would ban and limit Muslims entering the USA.

Over the weekend of 28th January 2017, Muslim travellers returning home or travelling to the USA, were detained at JFK airport.  Now as an independent world citizen, who has not researched this story fully, I cannot verify the facts of the detentions.

However, what I do want to discuss in this post, is the response to the news of these detentions.

Protesters assemble at John F. Kennedy International Airport in New York, Saturday, Jan. 28, 2017 after two Iraqi refugees were detained while trying to enter the country. On Friday, Jan. 27, President Donald Trump signed an executive order suspending all immigration from countries with terrorism concerns for 90 days. Countries included in the ban are Iraq, Syria, Iran, Sudan, Libya, Somalia and Yemen, which are all Muslim-majority nations. (AP Photo/Craig Ruttle)
Protesters assemble at John F. Kennedy International Airport in New York, Saturday, Jan. 28, 2017 after two Iraqi refugees were detained while trying to enter the country. On Friday, Jan. 27, President Donald Trump signed an executive order suspending all immigration from countries with terrorism concerns for 90 days. Countries included in the ban are Iraq, Syria, Iran, Sudan, Libya, Somalia and Yemen, which are all Muslim-majority nations. (AP Photo/Craig Ruttle)

United We Stand

Social media and the news has been overwhelmed with; pictures, live-streams, and tweets about the numbers of people who have come together to protest against the new policy imposed on many Muslim people at JFK airport.

People of all races, denominations, genders and persuasions, are gathered at JFK airport in solidarity for these individuals who have been detained and against the ban imposed on a number of Muslim nations.

Now, besides the millions of people whose voices are never heard, because of the indiscriminate actions being taken by Trump, there are people of power who are also being impacted by this policy.

Conservative, British MP Nadhim Zahawi, born in Bagdad, Iraq but is a British National (so has dual nationality), has been restricted access to USA due to his origins, despite having a valid 10 years visa to travel to the States.  However, what I found interesting was Nadhim’s perspective.

During an interview on the Andrew Marr show, Andrew Marr asked him

“How does it make you feel that Donald Trump does not want you in America now?”

Nadhim’s response was telling.  The realisation that his privilege and money did not mean anything in the face of hatred and stereotyping. He responded;

 Huh, gosh I don’t think I have felt discriminated against probably since little school, where kids are very cruel … as a young boy coming from Iraq or Kurdish origin. For the first time in my life last night I felt discriminated against, it’s demeaning, it’s sad…..

he continues about hs son having a life-threatening illness in the recent past whilst studying at Princeton College in the USA and the impact of that if it had happened today.

Does Nadhim Zahawi deserve this?

What strikes me about this particular case is that Nadhim’s one-day situation is the reality of so many people, every single day.  However, it is only when it impacts the privileged few, that in their opinion we must all come together.  I am extremely happy that Trump’s policy has ‘woken’ people up to the reality of humanity.  His policies are discriminatory, in-discriminatorily.  Trump is equal opportunities of hate, and as a consequence, I believe that his policies are working to bring people together.

“Nadhim, I literally feel your pain.”  As a black woman and a mother of sons, your connection to this situation has brought to bear on your shoulders the reality of so many people on a daily basis, whether you have acknowledged it or not.  I only hope that when your situation is resolved (and it will be), that you remember the unfairness of the hatred shown by Trump and that you and all other people in power who are impacted, will continue to fight for the fair treatment and equal opportunities of all humanity.

It is not Trump’s fault that his policies are negative towards humanity.  No.  He is a businessman and he saw a ‘GAP IN THE MARKET‘ and exploited it.  Simple.  We have to stop being consumers of his. It is only then will his light diminish.  He is interested in the money he can make, his bottom line and power.  We must stop being consumers of Trumps. Stop fighting each other, start building our communities to help and support each other.

I for one, do not have to see what Trump does next to know that we have to stand together to build our communities.

Bye for now.  

My name is Nicola and this is my blog!

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Deep in thought










Hidden Figures/Hidden Talent – Dawn Ellis


Name:            Dawn Ellis

Business:      Instant Teamwork Ltd

Website link:



As speaker, performer, facilitator, coach and consultant, Dawn has been working in the organisational and public arenas since 1997. She specialises in Storytelling and has a mission to put dynamic storytelling skills into the hands of people who can make a difference. She co-founded Instant Teamwork with her partner Tom Morley.


Dawn, what is the inspiration behind Instant Teamwork?  As an actor and performer, I had always been attuned to audience dynamics and knew how to change the mood of a group of people. I realised that I had transferrable skills that were necessary and valued in organisations and the world outside the theatre. Between us, Tom Morley (partner and musician – ex Scritti Politti) and I put our decades of knowledge and techniques to the service of engaging and motivating people. We are daily inspired to invite and encourage connection – one of our core values – and that means connection to oneself as well as to others.  Our shared passion and mission, to liberate the human spirit wherever we can and whatever the context.

What are the key foundations of your business?  By delivering unusual activities, often musical or rhythmic, we give permission for people to be themselves in all their enthusiasm and presence. They are surprised at themselves, they enjoy themselves whole-heartedly, achieve something unexpected, and find themselves in a  state of ‘flow’, in the ‘zone’. Now they are open to whatever else is going on – whether it’s a meeting, a seminar or a large conference.  Sometimes delegates even change their lives outside of work and introduce more creativity to their family life.  In practice, this means offering sessions that fall under the labels Team Building and Training. Ideally, we offer the big experience, which embeds memories and has an impact at the time and for a short while afterward – we then follow up with specific training designed to make all this lovely experience sustainable.


How has your business grown since you first launched?  We launched in 2000 and grew steadily, although the recession of 2008  hit our type of business noticeably, we managed to dodge the worst of it – partly because we are agile and adaptable. Some of our competitors weren’t so lucky.  Since then we have focused on being light on our feet and responsive to the zeitgeist, the marketplace and above all to being creative in the face of challenges.  We keep our core values and offer and constantly re-invent events and ways to engage people, whether it’s Storytelling, Motivational Speaking, Drumming, Song-writing or Circus Powerpoint. We have no wish to become a massive organisation – we have a global reach and are small enough to keep our essence intact.

What have been your biggest struggles since launching?  The recession definitely produced our biggest struggle to date.

What have been your greatest achievements?  For me, our biggest achievements range from micro to macro. Small victories include, for example, working with a group of fairly cynical French bankers and leaving them beaming, loosening their ties and fully bonded as a group of human beings. Achievements on a bigger stage usually involve using our name and reputation to make a real difference to the causes we support. These might be writing anthems for the launch of UN Women, creating flash mobs in Trafalgar Square to provide a magnet for One Billion Rising and Peace Day; to taking drums on to Millennium Bridge to be the heart-beat for the ‘Bridges not Walls’ initiative. It’s all about unity, engagement, and connection, wherever we are.  Finally, in 17 years we have never had a bad review!  And I think that’s an achievement.

Click on the image above to see Dawn Ellis spreading her wisdom and building communities.

What differentiates you from your competitors?  Our focus is completely on the groups we work with and not on our own cleverness and talent.  So we make sure that all our associates are great facilitators first and great performers second.

We don’t really do off the shelf sessions – we always tailor to whatever is needed.  We are able to de-brief the sessions where needed and offer in-depth training so that our events are fully integrated, not just a bolt-on “well that was the team building, now for the main bit”.

How would you encourage someone who wants to use your service?  I would say that our events are designed to be fully inclusive and uplifting.  There is no embarrassment, no solos, and that the metaphors to be drawn from a simple one-hour session are powerful.  And in answer to ‘that’s fine, but MY people wouldn’t do it’ I would say – ‘You’d be surprised, don’t under-estimate them, or our facilitation – try it.’

What are your goals for your business over the next few years?  We are building on our existing, strong Storytelling areas – partly because Storytelling seems crucial for us all right now – to understand what’s going on and to respond powerfully.  We are also developing our Interactive Motivational Talks more – paying particular attention to the release of talent that comes when you allow creativity out to play.

In 5 years we envision being acknowledged as architects of Collaboration, Trust, and Renewal in the private and public arenas.

What is your message to the reader?  People are at their best and able to make clear decisions and collaborate to the benefit of all when they understand how to get into and, crucially stay, in the Zone.  This is our area of expertise and we’d love to work alongside you to bring this about.  Contact us soon.

My personal final thought
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Deep in thought

Dawn, what a trailblazer you are. You project the image of an empowered, confident woman, who aims to inspire others to realise their full potential.  Thank you for doing this interview.

My name is Nicola and this is my blog!